I wanted to post to some of my friends and co-workers who will be going back to work next week. These ladies have a hard thing to do - go back to work and leave their babies with sitters, family, day care, etc.
My heart really goes out you girls because I remember how that felt. When I had my oldest two kiddos, I was a full time working mom outside of the home. I can still remember the dread and guilt leading up to going back to work and leaving them with someone else.
I want you know that I am thinking about you and your kids. Please trust me when I say it is all going to be okay. It will be hard at first, but it will and can work out fine.
I have three children. Two stayed with either family or a daycare when they were small. My third baby girl - I was blessed and able to stay home. I hope this makes you feel better when I say...
1. All three of my kids love me and I love them just the same. There is absolutely no difference in my relationship or closeness with my kids. They all three always knew who mom is. I used to worry that Anna would think her day care worker was mom. It didnt happen. There is a bond between mom and child that is unique to only a mom and their own child.
2. All three of my kids are intelligent, well rounded, non-violent, etc. Jared and Anna didnt suffer any life lasting ill effects of being in childcare. I can see lots of positives actually. They were both very socially adjusted and learned alot very fast. That plays to their benefit theses days. (middle school is so tough)
3. Funny enough- the sickest of my three was Lauren. (Lauren was the only non-daycare baby) You just never know. If they are sick in childcare, they may have been sick at home too.
4. Do NOT let anyone make you feel guilty or bad for the decision you have made. Everyone's life and family is very different. With our crazy economy and cutbacks in education, sometimes both parents working is the only option. There may be people who criticize you (for those of you who criticized me- I havent forgotten!!!! :-) ) You have to do what you have to do for your family. It makes you NO LESS of a good mother for having to work outside of the home.
I dont know if this makes you feel better but I hope does at least a little. I will be thinking about you next week.
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aw - thanks! What a great and timely message.
DeEtte
okay - I only removed the last message because it was the same as the first and I hit "send" twice!
:) lol!!! I am telling last year was the hardest...only knowing we are all at the same spot helped me more than words can express...then this year...well I just trust God and know they are in great hands...and I know there is lots of love around them... so I think this year is going to be harder -- riding to work with an empty van and car seats... dread!!! poor dannah well she is still living the retired life...without me... I was blessed to have the time I had with them but this is what God has for us at this point... thanks for the encouragement that we will survive!!! I think we all deal with our kids and separation...in some way or the other...(the true sad is the boys probably want miss me at all!!lol!!)
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